Jack Molay came up with the term because autogynephilia's definition doesn't exactly fit the bill; or to be more specific, It boils down to people like me not wanting to hear that they are perverted from a professional community. I get that. But here is the truth: I really can't say that I don't feel kind of perverted.
I've come to a strange point in my life where masturbating to transgendered erotica, is most assuredly more satisfying than having sex. Of course, I should mention that I haven't had the guts to introduce my condition to anyone, let alone a sexual partner...
There was a little tidbit in Jack's last post hinting that not all Autogynephiles shack themselves up and live alone, but for the record, its easy for me to understand why they would. I'd be lying if I said I haven't considered it.
Sidebar comment: I'm not a cross-dresser. I've experimented with it, and I do like the way women's clothes look and feel, but I'm not particularly keen to the idea of myself in women's clothing.
But even having said that, living alone would not only be easier because I could still have those things if I wanted, but mainly because I could self gratify with ease as much as I like- all without the hassle of maintaining a facade (no pun intended).
Bottom line here: I'm not sure if I can subscribe to this idea that what we are experiencing shouldn't be in the DSM.
*edit* I just wanted to point out that masturbating to erotica is more satisfying than having the vanilla kind of sex I've experienced, not that it's impossible for me (or other AG's) to perform.
I hear you. I have the same impression that Jack Molay is rationalizing.
ReplyDeleteHowever, there's a certain truth to the idea that there is an "inner women." Most autogynephiles do act more womanly. But it's probably because they are turned on if they act womanly. For example, most autogynephiles are very nice people. They are nice not because they are half-female. They are nice because they are turned on by themselves if they act nice, because niceness is a feminine trait.
Do you realize that many crossdressers get turned on if they act very nice and feminine? They act that way not because there is an "inner woman," but because they are turned on by acting nice.
Autogynephiles may not realize that this factor may unconsciously influence their behavior.
I sort of have an opinion on this, but I've put it into my first couple of blog posts instead. http://cdiab.blogspot.com - essentially I'm saying it feels too deep and and "real" to feel like just a fetish. It feels like there is something more to this for it to just be a perversion. I'd welcome any comments.
ReplyDeleteI've had this topic on my mind for a few days now, too. I've concluded that I'm perfectly normal, and that most of the men in the world have a bizarre (and possibly unwholesome) fetish for NOT secretly wishing they were women.
ReplyDelete@Vickie I like your attitude! :) I guess if we can't hold our chin high and try to enjoy life anyway, then what's the point?
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